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How To Be Self Confident

How To Be Self Confident

Confidence can be haaard. My confidence used to be in the pits of the Mariana Trench and when I was there I could see no way out, even if intellectually I knew I should “just feel better”. Check out these five things that really helped me increase my self confidence (in my mind and my body) and maybe they’ll help make you realise how freaking badass you are too!

Why I was happy when my boyfriend told me he wasn’t attracted to me

Why I was happy when my boyfriend told me he wasn’t attracted to me

I always got the impression my partner of 6 years just wasn’t that into me. Let me re-phrase, just not that into my looks. My suspicion was confirmed 4 years in when he told me that he didn’t find me as attractive because I had put on a little weight. Walking in the park at winter when he shamefully told me his secret, I assured him I would “become better”, I would lose weight.

I am a fraud - I hate my body

I am a fraud - I hate my body
  • I am a fraud, I hate my body.
  • I am lucky I have a boyfriend the way my body is, I'm surprised he can stomach looking at me.
  • I am always looking at people online, comparing myself to them and knowing I don't measure up.
  • When I am introduced to new people I know they are thinking "she is ugly and fat".
  • I think I am going to get fired from my job any day now, they will realise hiring me was a mistake.
  • I would look so much better if I just lost weight, I hate myself that I can't.
  • My partner says I am beautiful, but he is just saying that to be nice.
  • I am not worthy.

How to Get Off The Diet Rollercoaster For Good

How to Get Off The Diet Rollercoaster For Good

Are you a woman? Do you live in our society? Perhaps you’re a man, or any other gender on the spectrum? Are you a human being alive today? Then listen up here!

 

You are living in a society that tells you what to find attractive, tells you what beauty is. Right now beautiful is thin, white and young, long legged, eyebrows on fleek, flowing hair, thigh gapped...you get the picture.

 

If you don’t fall into those categories, tough luck, you ugly girl.

 

But that’s ok, you can try to get those characteristics, right?

 

Or can you? And at what cost.

Have The Confidence To Stick With Your Convictions

Have The Confidence To Stick With Your Convictions

This week, I had the honor of being on Good Morning America as a featured panelist for a discussion about diets!

I remember screaming at my desk when I got the email confirming my appearance, and I nearly fainted when I found out I’d be sharing the stage with some of my favorite body positive influencers. I was asked to be on the show as the anti-diet voice in a discussion with Mara Schiavocampo about her best-selling diet book, THINspiration.

Health, Confidence and Worthiness

Health, Confidence and Worthiness

The truth is that health is not an obligation, barometer or worthiness, entirely within our control, or guaranteed under any circumstance. The truth is that we should all have the opportunity, but never an obligation, to participate in fitness/athletics/movement at any level we choose. The truth is that we don’t have to make our self-confidence,  our self-esteem, or our self-worth  contingent on our health, our participation in fitness, or anything else. The truth is that the trolls can (and will) yammer on, but we don’t have to care what they say. The truth I realized for me is that I am the only person who can decide how I feel about myself and my body. The truth is that  we are worthy, no matter what.

How to Have the Confidence to Not Give a Fuck

How to Have the Confidence to Not Give a Fuck

Aahhh, giving a fuck. It’s a life long battle about what things deserve your fuck giving and what things don’t.

 

The way I see it, society has asked us women to give a fuck about the wrong things in order to distract us from giving a fuck about the things that really matter. That shit makes me mad girl!

 

I’m talking about dieting, teaching negative body image, treating women’s bodies as commodities and objects.

Standing Up For Self Love in a Self Loathing World

Standing Up For Self Love in a Self Loathing World

For my 18th birthday my dad wrote me a letter. He told me that no matter where I go, what I do or who I become, the most important thing I could ever have is integrity. The strength to stand up for what I believe in, for what's right, even if there are a million other people standing up for what's wrong. Before body positivity, I didn't believe in very much (and I definitely didn't believe in myself), but these days I understand exactly what he meant.